A Call to Adventure

A Call to Adventure


Carl Lindeborg

Carl Lindeborg

Leadership Consultant Sweden

Founder of Leader Evolve - Catalyst for Future Proof Leadership. Carl Lindeborg supports the growth and evolvement of leaders and organizations. He is sought  after as a catalyst for meaningful change in the roles of advisor, facilitator, trainer and speaker,  both to top management teams and to broader audiences.  With more than 5,000 hours of experience from speaking, training and facilitating, Carl has a rich  experience from working with a broad range of client organizations and from many speaking  engagements including a guest appearance at Harvard Business School. Carl is the founder of Leader Evolve and Lindeborgs Eco Retreat. He has been a fellow with Oxford  Leadership since 2010 and is also an associate program director at Stockholm School of  Economics Executive Education. He has a background from McKinsey & Co. </span> Carl is based in Sweden, where he, together with his wife, runs a sustainable retreat and meeting  place. He is also a writer on leadership with two books published and the next one planned for  2020. </span> www.leaderevolve.org www.lindeborgs.com

Without knowing it, my quest for purpose started one sunny afternoon in the back garden of a  small house in Aix-en-Provence in southern France. It was spring, and I was 20 years old. I had  finished military service and then spent an exciting and fun winter skiing in the north of Sweden. 

Now I was studying French and staying in the house of a wonderful older woman, Madame Rey.  Every evening she made us a delicious three-course meal with wine, and we spoke about life, or at  least I tried to, struggling with my French. 

I felt free and inspired, spending months away from family and friends, with the future open and  full of possibilities. This particular afternoon, I sat down in the shade to write a vision for my life. I  can’t remember where I got the idea, but it felt like an important moment. 

I wrote down a list of things I wanted to achieve in my life. I wanted an exciting, well-paid job and a  career that led to a CEO position further out in time. I wanted to be very knowledgeable of  basically everything, ranging from fine wines and fashion to Greek philosophers. I wanted to be in  great shape, to have a cool apartment, to have a good looking and smart girlfriend, to know  many languages, and the list went on and on. When I had finished, I looked at the list. 

I realized it would mean a lot of work to realize this ambition, and I drew an arrow pointing away  from the vision, like a “take away,” and at the end of the arrow, I wrote, “sleep less.” And without  questioning that conclusion very much, so I did. 

A few months later I went to business school, and soon I was also working for a German chemistry  company alongside my studies. I loved it. It was challenging and exciting. Next to studies and work  there were parties and travel and a good looking and smart girlfriend. Why all this was so  important I didn’t think so much about. I wanted to be someone. I felt invincible, fueled by my  ambitions and the sense of being recognized. 

Nothing was impossible. Once I was studying three courses instead of the normal full-time pace of  two, in addition to my job. To be able to pass the exams and deliver at work at the same time, I  scheduled every hour between 7 a.m. and 10 p.m. for 21 straight days with studies and work, 

There were signs, of course, that this tempo and the lack of rest and reflection had a price. Once  during this 21-day period, I was embarking a flight in Munich after a meeting. I sat down and  immediately brought up a book on business law that I needed to read to be prepared for the next  exam. I opened the book, read a few lines and then felt nose blood starting to drip down on my tie.  Not good I thought, but it wasn’t enough to change my course. 

A call to adventure 

About 4-5 years later, I was spending a quite miserable winter in Brussels. Following business  school, I got the job that was most sought after at my school, and I spent a few years working for  an American consultancy firm. There had been ups and downs and a lot of learning in a short  time. In the beginning, I was thrilled and also found many of the assignments stimulating and  interesting. But something had started to shift after a couple of years with this life.

This damp and gloomy winter in Brussels, I was building a database with a long list of names of  employees, basically trying to help the client organization figure out whom they could be without. I  do think that it makes sense to do exercises like this in certain contexts, but it is also about how  you do it and about why you do it. During this time, my life felt empty. I started to wonder, “What is  the point of all this? What is the point of all this running just to achieve another goal?” I was really  living the work-hard, play-hard life I had strived for since that sunny afternoon in France. However,  I was starting to realize that while this lifestyle gave great kicks every now and then, the sense of  satisfaction never lasted. Sometimes I even caught myself playing a mental game on Sundays,  trying to determine how much I would be willing to pay to make it Friday afternoon again. 

Joseph Campbell, a professor in literature and the author of many books, talks about the Hero’s  Journey as a metaphor for human development through life. The Hero’s Journey starts with “a  call to adventure,” some signs encouraging you to move away from your current reality into the  unknown. 

My call to adventure was emotional but also physical. During almost the whole Brussels  experience I had a severe cold, which should have put me in bed but didn’t. It went on month after  month. I also got an inflamed Achilles tendon and could hardly walk in a normal way. 

Campbell points out that in the hero tales, the hero often neglects the signs and the call to  adventure initially, being resistant to leave the known world, the status quo, the current view of  self. In the end, however, the signs become so strong and clear that they are unneglectable. So, it  was in my case too. After three months of coughing, sniffling and mild limping, the symptoms  finally forced me to answer the call, to break the patterns I was repeating and to start a journey  that would over just a couple of months have me reassess myself and my life and then change  everything. 

Am I really alive? 

I realized that my body was trying to tell me something but I couldn’t figure out what exactly,  working 70- our weeks with no space for reflection. So one day, I just had had enough. I decided to  take a break for three months and managed to get unpaid leave. I made the last push to finish my  consultancy project, took a day to pack a backpack with some clothes and a couple of books, and  then jumped onto a flight to Asia, leaving my mobile phone and computer at home. I felt I had a  debt to resolve when it came to introspection and self-inquiry, so I made a choice to make this  journey on my own, with as little distraction as possible. I felt that something really needed to shift  in my life and in order for that to happen, I needed to create the space for it to unfold. So quite  exhausted but hopeful, I set off on an around-the-world trip with one question in mind: “What’s  next?” 

Leaving Sweden and my familiar hectic life, I could never have imagined how I, in the end, was to  respond to this question, how the call to adventure was about me discovering my sense of  purpose and then reorganizing life accordingly. Three days into the journey, I flew into Laos,  maybe one of the most beautiful and tranquil countries in the world. In the small airplane, I was  sitting next to a big guy with a bald head. There was something impressive in his appearance. He  was the CEO of a Dutch company. Once a year he went to a monastery in Laos to reflect, reboot  and then go back into action with more clarity and intention. He asked if I wanted to join him and  go visit the monastery, and I thought, “Why not?” 

I vividly remember how we walked down a dirt road and saw the golden monastic building at the  edge between town and jungle. When we arrived, the monks had some kind of gathering in the  temple. I sat down at the back of the room. There were rows of monks, both young and old, all  dressed in orange, sitting in half-lotus positions. Suddenly they started to sing. Absolutely still, they  sang hymn after hymn. They sang in a beautiful, harmonic and deep way. The sound really  touched something in me as my brain struggled to understand the abrupt shift from hectic work mode just a couple of days earlier to now being absorbed into a blissful state by a mesmerizing  choir of deep and perfectly synchronized voices. 

The thought of whether I was in heaven entered my mind. “Was I still alive?” Then the next thought  came, “Maybe this is what it is like to be alive for real? Full presence here and now, no distractions,  awakened senses, connection.” 

Following the gathering, the young monk novices invited me to their room for a cookie and a cup  of water. I sat with them on the earth floor. They didn’t know anything about careers, businesses  or hip clubs. We spoke about life. There was no need for me to keep up a polished and  professional façade. I could just be me. I always thought I had been me, so this was the start of an  unexpected liberation, that there was something more in me, a deeper sense of authenticity. 

That afternoon, I realized that while striving so intensively towards my vision and what I thought  would be a fulfilled and successful life, I had lost two important things. I had lost my sense of  playfulness, letting everything become so serious; and I had lost my sense of purpose, which gives  a strong sense of meaning from the inside. 

Walking home to my hostel feeling happy, free and intrigued, I noticed that the pain in my heel  was gone. It never came back. The record-long cold left me a couple of days later. I realized that I  had a job to do, finding that which could give me joy and meaning, but I didn’t know how to go about it. 

An alternative way 

Following the monastery experience, I took a riverboat up north into the real wilderness of Laos.  After a few hours on the river, we came to a small village with no electricity. I found a bungalow  costing me one dollar per night, and I thought, “Wow I can stay here for the rest of my life if I sell  everything I own.” 

The village was located on the riverbank at the edge of the jungle. On the opposite side of the  river where green hills. Nature really absorbed me and I felt very far away from the rest of the  world. In the afternoons, I lay in my hammock watching lightning play over the hills before the sky  opened and I had to flee inside. In the mornings, I was awakened by an energetic crowing rooster,  sitting under my bungalow, which was built on poles. 

But it was the evenings that were transformative for me. We were only about 10 tourists in the  village, and at dusk, we gathered for a beer and something to eat. The people that had made it  into this at-the-end-of-the-world place fascinated me and we spoke about life, wonder and the  meaning of everything. 

I especially enjoyed the conversations with two surfers from Hawaii. The kind of surfers who would  go out into the waves when there is a real thunderstorm roaring, getting kicks from the electric  charges traveling through the water. It may sound crazy, and maybe they were crazy, but I think  they were crazy in a very intense and alive way. I longed for the freedom I saw in them. I longed to  live with more presence, passion, and adventure. I started to see that there is an alternative way of  approaching life where material things and prestige are far less important in relation to the actual  experience of the current moment. These meetings in the Lao jungle made me consciously think  for the first time in my life that maybe it is the richness of experience that should matter most, the  quality of the emotion, the presence with which the senses actually perceive. 

I shared the big questions I was pondering with the people whom I had randomly met. “What’s the  meaning of life? How do we live more fully? What’s next?” The last evening on the riverbank, this group of life adventurers put together a reading list for me, a list of 10 books on life and personal  development they absolutely thought were essential for me… 

I brought the list to Singapore and surprisingly found half of them in a bookstore. I decided to go  someplace calm and beautiful to digest them and found an isolated beach on a remote Malaysian  island. So, for a couple of weeks, I read, reflected and journaled, and I met more people that  shared my longing for freedom and meaning. 

The book that affected me the most was “The World of the Peaceful Warrior,” by Dan Millman, a  book about self-discovery and self-transformation. I recognized myself in the main character, a  young man who is successful in the outer world but unfulfilled in the inner world (Dan himself). In the book, Dan describes how he meets this mysterious character called Socrates who becomes his  mentor. Socrates works at a gas station but possesses great life wisdom. He guides Dan to  question many of his beliefs, to explore new ways of relating to life and to search for the core of  fulfillment not on the outside but on the inside. All this resonated strongly with me, and I became  even more convinced that my doubts about my work-hard, play-hard life made sense and there  was another way of living life, more meaningful and more fulfilling. The question was just, “What  would that life look life for me? What would I need to shift and change?” 

Facing demons and the rise of purpose 

Up until now, my journey had been a great adventure. I expected to see amazing landscapes in  these Southeast Asian countries, which I also did see, but I hadn’t been prepared for also seeing  new and unexplored landscapes in myself. Being far away from my everyday reality, I had been  exploring with a sense of lightness and fascination. As the weeks passed by and my return back home came closer, fears started to arise. I realized that I had created my life from the outside in. I  had been so eager to succeed based on what I had perceived success to be in other people’s eyes  that I had forgotten about who I really was. Now the consequences of that realization started to  scare me. I knew how to be successful in my current life context, but what would happen if I  changed course and created life from the inside out? What would I do? What would people think? 

I lay awake long into the nights with the thoughts racing and suddenly no one to talk to. My  worrying brain that had checked out in Laos came back into action to challenge me. Wouldn’t it be  better to just stay where I was and make a few adjustments? 

This period I moved between meetings with my inner demons presenting the case of how things  could go very wrong if I followed this new longing for meaning and freedom, to periods of  conviction and strength coming from the emerging new thoughts about what was possible. After  many rounds of this dance, I realized that I had opened a door in me that I could not close again,  no matter the voices of the demons. To close this door of inspiration and take the old path would  have been to violate me. 

More and more strongly, I felt energy and joy when seeing myself making a difference in the  world that mattered not only in the financial dimension but also in the human dimension.  Continuing exploring my book list, I learned more about the inner potential inherent in us as  human beings, but I also learned about the immense global challenges arising for humanity,  based on the collective actions of our species. It seemed to me that the outer crises, the fact that  we collectively create results that nobody wants, was a manifestation of an inner crisis. Inspired by  my own journey, I thought that the more we learn about ourselves at a deeper level, about our  beliefs, our values, our sense meaning in life, the better equipped we will be to make better  decisions for the whole. As I started to realize this in myself, it released a wave of energy in me. I  was not here just to be an instrument to help companies make more money, I was here to support  human beings to make better decisions for the whole, whether that whole would be themselves,  their organizations or the world. The return 

Coming back to Joseph Campbell’s description of the Hero’s Journey, once the hero answers the  call to adventure and passes the first threshold, there is the road of trials where he also faces his  demons. In the classic hero tale, the hero finally finds what he went out looking for. But it doesn’t end there. There is always the return when the hero needs to leave the adventure and come back  to everyday life (think of Frodo in the “Lord of the Rings,” for instance). Usually, the hero now feels  a resistance to return to what he actually didn’t want to leave in the first place. 

My adventure was about connecting with my sense of purpose in life, and along the journey, I  found something important that I knew would change my life. Now awaited the return to  Stockholm, where I lived, where everything was the same as when I had left, except that I wasn’t. I  was to return to my friends and my colleagues, where many probably hadn’t even noticed that I  had been away and where people saw me in a way that would not fully match who I wanted be  going forward – myself. The fears started to arise in me again. “Would I just get sucked back into  the old patterns? Would people just think I had been smoking something weird in those jungles  and get over it eventually? How was I to navigate through all of the changes I wanted to make?”  These kinds of questions made my mind race and my stomach tense for many days and nights.  And the demons were whispering: “Are you crazy giving up what you have worked so hard for?  You just can’t do it.” 

A few days before the return, I was walking by myself on another beautiful beach, this time on the  Cook Islands. I still remember this moment, because it is a decisive moment, one of those  moments in one’s life where there is a choice made that puts you on a new trajectory. Suddenly,  walking in the lowering sunlight next to the calm ocean, I felt stillness and clarity filling me. The  mental rumination stopped, the demons were quiet and for the first time, I really knew with  absolute certainty that upon my return I would make the changes needed to align myself and my  life to my best ability with my newfound sense of purpose and with the innate longing for freedom  and meaning. No matter the consequences. 

Having made that commitment, I felt at peace with myself. I felt a power from within arise in me  with a very different quality than the force of performance anxiety, which I often had felt before.  This energy filled me with a belief in myself, a sense that I was on the right track and that  everything would work out fine. I suddenly felt a rush of positive emotions like excitement, joy and  even love. Even though the demons and the fear of change would occasionally come back to  challenge me, there was from this moment on an inner foundation anchored in my sense of  purpose and the core values that I could connect to. I could allow the fear to be there, but I felt  more distant to it. It was the excitement and joy that would lead the way. The most difficult thing  turned out to be making the choice to change, not to actually make the changes. 


After many weeks away I returned to my home. I went from the work-hard, play- hard life to  another kind of life. Still, I had the drive in me and made sure to make the change thoroughly,  going from one extreme to the next. If I was to live according to my inner compass, I was going to  do it fully. 

So, during the following weeks, I made many changes. I ended a relationship. I quit my job and  career as a management consultant to become a personal trainer, helping people with their  health and by that lowering my income by 80 percent. I stopped drinking, changed my diet and  started with yoga and meditation. I also started to read new books and have different kinds of  conversations with friends and family. 

I wanted to spread my newfound sense of what life is all about and I wanted to help people  experience the same shift that I had experienced in myself. When I look back at this period, I can see that the drive to influence the system around me was a way to convince myself that I was  making the right choices. A way to still inner demons and lingering doubts. 

Taking on the new path to 110% and making so many choices that contradicted what I had chosen  before was in one way overcompensating, bringing the steering wheel from maximum left to  maximum right. With hindsight, I do think it was necessary to do this for a period, to be quite rigid  in the new helped me break the old patterns, to move from one life trajectory to the next. It was a  total disruption and it was probably needed to avoid the risk of returning gradually back to my old  way of living. 

Following these instant changes, there would be an integration period of several years before I  really found inner balance, an inner sense of comfort with myself, a way of relating naturally to  purpose and values without having to convince anybody else. 

Integration and a whole new education 

I felt that my purpose was about inspiring people to open up, to see an even bigger picture and to  make better and more sustainable choices for the whole. Reflecting on how I could live this  purpose, I had chosen to start with what was most concrete, the physical aspect of wellbeing. I had  taken an intense course to become a personal trainer and started my own company called  “Energize Stockholm”. I was supporting both individuals and organizations and the more work I did,  the more I understood how little I knew and how much there was to learn. To be who I wanted to  be to my clients, I realized quickly that I needed to broaden my approach and go back to school  again, but a very different school compared to the schools I was used to. 

For the next four-to-five years, I spent two-to-three months per year in dedicated life education. I  went back to university and took a few classes on topics ranging from religious history to stress  management, but most of this time, I traveled with my backpack to new places in the world where  I thought that I would learn something and expand my horizons. 

These travels were a manifestation of my longing for freedom and my curiosity about myself and  human development. I learned to really enjoy my own company and always left the phone and  computer at home. I brought as few things as possible, but one of them was always my journal.  The journaling helped me process and integrate my experiences, and though I didn’t know it at the  time, these written reflections would later form the basis of two books. 

These adventures influenced me deeply and enriched my own experience of purpose. For  instance, I once got the opportunity to go to Dharamsala in north India to spend a week listening  to the Dalai Lama speaking not to Westerners but to fellow Tibetan monks. I bought a small radio  through which I could hear a simultaneous translation from Tibetan to English. Although I took  many notes, I cannot remember any real specifics from what he said. But I do remember two  things. One was the numbness and pain in my limbs from sitting cross-legged on a cushion for a  week; the other, vastly more significant, was the appearance of the Dalai Lama. During the whole  week, he naturally radiated warmth, compassion, presence, wisdom and a wonderfully playful  sense of humor. He was such a great inspiration to me and writing this more than 10 years later, I  once again feel inner warmth and a smile on my lips. 

Other influential moments from these travels happened in the lush jungle and the high mountains of Peru, spending time with local shamans, going through deepening trainings in psychology in  California, climbing a holy mountain with a Buddhist monk in Japan and spending time in a  monastery in France. 

All these experiences and all the reflection in solitude helped me integrate the sudden changes I  had done. I could better make sense of myself and I could relate to myself with more self-compassion. I didn’t feel the need any longer to convince anyone to validate myself, but I did feel I  had a story to tell – a story of self-discovery that could inspire. So, in 2007, I released my first  book, “Your Brilliant Self – Creating Life from Inside Out.” In 2009, it was followed by “Courageous,”  which I co-wrote with a friend and colleague. 1 These creative processes were a great way of  taking my understanding of myself and personal leadership in general as far as I could at that  time. 

I was 29 years old when “Your Brilliant Self” was published, and looking back at that afternoon in  Madame Reys’ garden nine years earlier, it is clear to me that because the vision had been so  ambitious and I had driven myself so hard to reach it without finding what I really was looking for,  there was no compelling reason to continue on that path. Instead of thinking that if I only can get  that better job or get that thing that is just a little bit more prestigious life would be great, I could  question my assumptions and some of my choices. I was opened up for a whole new adventure,  which was about sensing and aligning with my own purpose and values – to peel layers of the  onion and get closer to the core. 

Moving with purpose 

When you strive to live in line with purpose, and when you continuously work to strengthen your inner sensitivity to what’s next, you never really know where life will take you. 

A few years after the episode described above, I went to the movie theater to see Al Gore’s film  “An Inconvenient Truth”. Although I had been quite aware of the environmental challenges that  humanity faces, this movie created an alarming sense of urgency in me. I remember sitting still in  the cinema while the closing credits appeared on the screen and people were leaving. In the end,  the room was empty and quiet. I remained for some time sensing fear and worry transform into  an inner conviction to somehow do something. My sense of purpose was calling me to act in a  new way. It was a new call to adventure. 

At that time, I had met my wonderful wife, Julia, we had gotten our first child, Leopold, and we had  built our dream house on an island in the archipelago outside Stockholm, just at the banks of the  Baltic Sea. 

Over the next year, I got the opportunity to lead a development program for the global  sustainability group of one of Sweden’s largest companies. Throughout the program, we dived into  the greatest challenges that humans face and we interacted with some of the leading scientists  and thinkers on climate change and global ecological challenges. An important moment for me  during the program was when Johan Rockström, Professor in Environmental Science and leader  of Stockholm Resilience Center, said, “Climate change is the easy question to solve; then there are  difficult questions.” I thought, “Humanity is not doing too well on the easy question, what will  happen when we come to the difficult ones?” 

Julia and I started to talk a lot about the global challenges we faced. We read more, we watched  more. How would life be for our son when he was our age? All the curves pointed in the wrong  direction and the positive changes seemed to be too few and too slow. Gradually a vision surfaced  in us, anchored in a common sense of purpose. We saw the possibility to create a place for  learning, reflection, and exploration. A place of inspiration where people could experience real  solutions to problems we collectively face and a place that could be a meeting point for people  who feel the longing to grow and develop to build an even greater capacity to make better  choices for the whole. 

So, after all the effort and the love we had put into building our new house, we decided to sell it  and move to a place where we could realize our vision. It was a difficult decision since we really  loved the place we had created, but the pull of the vision was stronger. We had opened a new  door we couldn’t close.

We knew that the countryside would be the place for our “sustainable retreat,” so we moved to a  small town about 100 km from Stockholm and squeezed into a small apartment while looking for  the right place. We lived in this apartment when we had our second child, Cornelia. We knew we  had to learn more about farming and sustainable ways of working with nature, so in between my  consultancy assignments, and while Julia was pregnant with Cornelia, we practiced at an organic  farm. 

A year later, we sold our house we found our new place by the end of the road, with a lake, forest,  and fields surrounding an old farm center. This was a farm that had slept for 50 years, and  literally, everything needed care. It took us seven years to transform the old farm into the  sustainable retreat it is today, with new eco-friendly buildings, diverse and edible gardens, and  production of organic grains. We are happy to have built one of the first buildings in the world that  are heated in a carbon dioxide negative way; that is the more heat we produce, the less CO2 in the  atmosphere. We are also able to show many other sustainable ideas in practice. But we are most  happy to continuously create a space to which people and groups can come to step out of the  intensity of daily life, to connect with the ecosystems, to slow down, to get perspective, and to  have authentic conversations about that which matters most, whether it is in themselves, their  organization or the world we all share. 

This transformation hasn’t been an easy journey for us. It could probably fill a whole book in itself  of ups and downs and so much learning. Many times, we have wondered, “What are we doing?  Why are we making it so difficult for ourselves?” 

For myself, and I think it is the same for my wife when I come back to the vision and connect to  my sense of purpose of somehow making a positive difference in this world we live in, energy is  restored and I get more perspective. I can then see the beauty in the process of continuously  taking two steps forward and one step back and then another two steps forward, trusting that by  the following purpose and staying on that track even in the face of difficulty, I learn what I am  here to learn, I do what I am here to do, and I create the ripple effects that hopefully makes the  whole system more healthy. And that is satisfying, from the inside out.